Epiphany

[flwyd]

Communication requires both parties to agree in advance about the basic constituents. Once basic communication has been established, more complex messages can be constructed.

Thus, when two people know each other well, they can communicate quite subtly. But when you'd like to send the message "I'd like to get to know you," doing so subtly assumes a shared communications protocol that hasn't been established. It's like trying to send your username before you establish an ssh connection. The message will not be understood and summarily dropped on the floor.

Comments

[flwyd.livejournal.com]

I also tend to get affected by others' actions and words really easily because I am constantly picking up on teeny tiny radar signals that they might not even be giving off intentionally.

*cough*
Um.
*stares at shooes*
Yeah.

Cue Moldy Peaches - "Nothing Came Out"

[slyviolet.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

I guess I should amend that quote with "...and in fact might not actually be putting off at all, and I am just inventing a new subtext that wasn't there to begin with."

I wish I had known, Jellybean... I wish we had both been clever enough to think to clarify. *hugs again*

[malakim-angel.livejournal.com]

This could tie in with using E-Prime... English without the "to be" verb is pretty interesting since it forces you out of the patterns we tend to get comfortable (and inflexible) with.