Personal Insight
Sunday, November 4th, 2001 02:03 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
flwydWhat I do is, for the most part, more important to me than whith whom I do it. I have trouble understanding people's need to watch movies with other peopleor eat with others. I understand the desire for conversation related to these activities, but I see people meet for a film and then leave after, without talking about it.
I think this is why I have few deep friends, but a whole host of friends I talk to when when we encounter each other. When I feel like gaming, I implement that desire. I rarely contact someone and say "We should do something... let's game." It's much easier to go on a bike ride or a hike on the spur of the moment than to try to coordinate several people's schedules.
This is, I think, also why I have a very small romantic history. A relationship invoves self-consciously spending time with another person for the sake of that person, rather than the activity. I think I would feel uncomfortable in a relationship where there wasn't mutual geekery of various sorts. And since I tend to do things on my own, not needing company to do things like eat, watch films, think about philosophy, or explore the world, I don't have an impulse to ask girls out. Especially since a lot of that is done in random slots of time that I have some trouble anticipating.
I already knew I am task oriented, rather than a people person. But the phrase "What I do is more important than who I do it with" seems to make things clear. Yay personal aphorisms.
I think this is why I have few deep friends, but a whole host of friends I talk to when when we encounter each other. When I feel like gaming, I implement that desire. I rarely contact someone and say "We should do something... let's game." It's much easier to go on a bike ride or a hike on the spur of the moment than to try to coordinate several people's schedules.
This is, I think, also why I have a very small romantic history. A relationship invoves self-consciously spending time with another person for the sake of that person, rather than the activity. I think I would feel uncomfortable in a relationship where there wasn't mutual geekery of various sorts. And since I tend to do things on my own, not needing company to do things like eat, watch films, think about philosophy, or explore the world, I don't have an impulse to ask girls out. Especially since a lot of that is done in random slots of time that I have some trouble anticipating.
I already knew I am task oriented, rather than a people person. But the phrase "What I do is more important than who I do it with" seems to make things clear. Yay personal aphorisms.
