On Etiquette

[flwyd]

Out of curiosity, in planning a wedding:

The groom's best friend is a woman, the bride's best friend is a man. Who gets to be the best man and who gets to be the maid of honor? And if the woman is on the groom's side and the man on the bride's side, what are the proper titles? Best woman and lad of honor?

A drag queen is a mutual friend of the couple. On which side does he stand, and what's the proper attire?

It's not that I'm concerned about following etiquette (or that I'm planning a wedding). It's just that I like to know when I'm violating social norms.

Comments

[supereggo.livejournal.com]

i have seen it before where a women has been one of the groom's "groomswomen" or the bride has had a "man of honor" or something.. usually with different names. completely normal to have good friends that are of the opposite sex... and i think people dont freak out that much by it.

as for being the best___/___of honor, it gets a little wierder. unless that person is family, you are bound to get get some wierd looks and people saying things under their breath.

sure, you CAN do it, but the fact is -- the bride is supposed to be your best woman friend by leaps and bounds. not that you arent capable of having a bride and a really close woman friend, but a lot of people see that as quite taboo... because for many, having both a fiance and a best woman friend stretches the boundaries of what seperates friendship, love, intimacy, and all that stuff to the limit. see the multitude of cheesey romance movies where the engaged person ends up breaking up with the fiance, realizing that they are instead really in love with the "best friend" of the opposite sex.