On Etiquette

[flwyd]

Out of curiosity, in planning a wedding:

The groom's best friend is a woman, the bride's best friend is a man. Who gets to be the best man and who gets to be the maid of honor? And if the woman is on the groom's side and the man on the bride's side, what are the proper titles? Best woman and lad of honor?

A drag queen is a mutual friend of the couple. On which side does he stand, and what's the proper attire?

It's not that I'm concerned about following etiquette (or that I'm planning a wedding). It's just that I like to know when I'm violating social norms.

Comments

[teal-cuttlefish.livejournal.com]

I'd go with having your best friend at your side, gender irrelevant. When I married Doug, my sister was the maid of honor, and his niece was his best man.

How many attendants are you planning on, which side would the drag queen fill out better (like you are planning on three attendants and one person has three easy choices while the other has two easy choices and the DQ would be a good third) and which way does s/he want to dress.

It's your (or whoever's) wedding. Do whatever you want.

[altamira16.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I was about to say something similar. One of my friends got married with 6 men and 2 women in the wedding party. The grooms four guys were called groomsmen, and the brides two of each were called brides attendants. She had them lined up in boy, girl, boy, girl order.