Yes, but so much better than before; I've been hearing people my parents' age talk about how little time they had off when people my age (30ish) were born.

It's just one thing of the many in our culture that doesn't support families (or people in general, really). I am lucky to live near extended family who are willing (excited! grandmas love grandbabies!) to take part in child care.

Also, re: Pareto principle- yes! So much parenting advice goes to extremes. If a little bit of music is good for the brain, then we must be playing Mozart to our fetuses 24/7! Etc.